I grew up in a law enforcement home.

Nothing about growing up inside of a law enforcement family is normal. As kids of law enforcement, we are often exposed to (hyper)vigilance, unpredictable schedules, the dangers of the world - just to name a few. 

But the goal is to make sure this does not define your family

My parents were deeply intentional about protecting our relationship, our stability, and the small, ordinary moments that are now some of my best memories.

I’m not a police officer. I’m a civilian and so much of who I am was shaped by elements of growing up in a law enforcement family, and having devoted parents that I am lucky to have.

As an adult, I began to notice something that didn’t sit right with me. We do so much to prepare officers for the job, but we talk far less about how the job impacts the family, especially the kids. I saw families who deeply loved each other, yet struggled to connect simply because the stress of the job leaked into family dynamics; sometimes leaving the kids feeling fearful, confused, or unsure how to react to their LE parent’s unpredictable emotions or mood.

I designed this workbook from my lived experience. The experiences that showed me that even if my dad was working a lot or had to take on OT, quality time and making memorable moments was always prioritized. Even if we only had five minutes together, he made sure they were impactful.

This workbook is about helping families just like mine slow down, even if it is only for five minutes. To realize that connection isn’t about time, it is about connection and presence in the time that you do have. My goal is to meet you where you are at, for you to enjoy this workbook at your own pace, and use it as a way to reconnect with the love and presence of your family alongside the chaos of the job.

• You work in law enforcement and there are many days your come home feeling emotionally shut down while your family is asking for connection

• You don’t want the job to create disconnect between you and your kids due to the long hours and intense situations you are often exposed to

• You’re married to a law enforcement officer and finding it difficult to carve out time or common ground amid the schedule and stress

• You love your career in law enforcement but sometimes feel like a stranger in your own home. You walk through the door with your system on high alert and you don’t know how to down regulate to match the reality of home and family

• You want to build memories, traditions, and a family story your kids will carry with them for life and one day share with their own families

Inside this workbook, you’ll find simple, flexible prompts and activities designed to fit your schedule and align with your emotional or mental capacity. Spend dedicated time with your family once a week - some weeks it might be five minutes, others it could be hours, it is up to you.

You can expect to:

• Create meaningful moments of connection, despite the mandatory OT 

• Understand your kids’ experience and why they were snarky with you at dinner

• Stop feeling like a stranger in your own home

• Give your loved ones intentional, thoughtful insight into why you can seem detached or quick to snap

• Have open conversations about difficult subjects relating to your job

• Create a written record of moments, reflections, and memories you and your family can look back on, even after you’ve retired - highlighting your true purpose in life

This workbook meets you where you are. Some weeks may be light and playful. Others may open the door to deeper conversations. Over time, these small, intentional moments add up to something bigger: a strong family connection, memories and traditions to last life times, and a legacy that will last far beyond the uniform.

It’s about making the most of the time you already have, without adding pressure. It is about quality over quantity. Quality time over toys, things, trips, and money.

Designed specifically for law enforcement families, it helps you slow down, connect, and create meaningful moments, even when schedules are unpredictable and energy is limited. Each page becomes part of your family’s story, capturing intention, presence, and the memories your kids will carry with them forever. Once the pages are complete, you will have a keepsake that you can look back on together and recall the laughter, connection, lessons, and moments.